
So, a friend from work killed himself last night.
The key to that, a "friend from work." Meaning, while in the store I thought the world of the guy, I didn't really spend time with him outside of it. For no other reason that I have very little to do concerning life away from work. Still, I liked him. I enjoyed the days that he was working because I liked having him around. Also, he just started dating someone else from work that I think very highly of, and I was pretty excited about them being a couple.
I've known him for about as long as I've worked there. About four years. He'd left for a while... had a problem with alchohol. They let him go, but I don't think officially. He cleaned up, made a lot of changes in his life. He came back for the Christmas season, but I thought he might be sticking around. He came in yesterday, in fact, and I was asking why I hadn't seen him (said he was essentially seasonal). He seemed perfectly fine, but, seeing as how it was work, I was busy doing stuff and didn't get to talk to him.
That's pretty much been the popular theme. "I saw him yesterday. He seemed fine. Didn't really get to talk to him much."
There's a part of the brain that likes to suppose that your involvement, your being there, could somehow make a difference in a situation like this. Like, if I'd had just a couple minutes free to talk with him, maybe I could've seen something was wrong, or just made him feel like he was important, or something. It's usually a crock, but, hell, it's an unexplainable situation, so you try to rationalize something.
I don't want to pretend like we were super close, or that this is somehow devistating to my life. Another person at work pretty much summed it up.
"If you stopped coming in tomorrow, I'd be okay. Probably wouldn't think about it too much. Every once in a while, yeah, I'd think back to knowing you. But I'd at least feel like I could see you again at some point."
The idea that, yesterday I saw someone and hoped he'd get to stay at the job because I liked having him around, and today... nothing. Not a chance. That is, I guess, the hard part.
The girl he was dating... there's the usual work rumors around the whole place. One of them is that she's the one that found him. I hope to God that's not the case. She's a really great person who has not had an exactly easy life, and people are... well, a lot of people at work are pricks to her. Like I said, I was really happy when they got together because I wanted to see something good happening for both of them. I hate to think about what she's going through right now. I wonder if she's even going to come back to the store.
One guy today... he just said the worst thing I could think of. I was dumbfounded by how cruel he was. I almost don't want her to come back to that kind of place. But he's one guy, and everyone else, while not great... Some people would try to be there for her, at least.
I really don't have a point.